Getting out of Passivity
April 11, 2018

I want to address the issue of passivity in recovery. Passivity is painful. Should I say, it is painful to watch. And it’s painful to the people who long for you to be proactive. A lot of times I don’t…Read More

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Check-in or Checking-the-Box
February 1, 2018

A topic that comes up often in my office is that of check-ins. By this I mean the multitude of touch points men have with their wives. These include the daily ones, typified by coming and going to work, meetings,…Read More

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Tips on Reassurance
January 8, 2018

Providing reassurance to our wives is an important part of trust building after betrayal. For most wives, just hearing “I’m not acting out” is not reassuring at all. If you have a history of lies and cover-ups, then it may…Read More

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Measuring Progress
October 5, 2016

A common question I get from men in the recovery process is, “I’m not acting out, so how can I show my wife I’m making progress?”   To which I usually follow with a question, “How do you know when you’re…Read More

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Courageous Men
September 7, 2016

I’ve talked to some courageous men lately. If you do a little Bible homework, you’ll find courage/courageous used more than 50 different ways. It speaks of the wind, the heart, stones, the will, rationality, and boldness to face fear. What…Read More

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Sexualize v. Angerize
August 18, 2016

I haven’t looked to see if that’s actually a word. If not, I made it up. I wanted to take a minute to talk about angerizing emotions. For men who struggle with sexual integrity issues, there are usually 2 ways…Read More

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Every Mans Battle Workshop – Opening Session
August 5, 2016

We just finished the first session at another EMB Workshop and I feel super encouraged. The reason is I just saw almost 70 men face their shame. They walked through the doors of the hotel into an awkward, unknown experience….Read More

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Fire your CEO
July 25, 2016

Crazy…this post is actually from 2012. Its comical how applicable it is today! My, how some things never change. Lately I’ve been reminded that I’m not the best CEO of my life. Seriously, I don’t manage my life very well….Read More

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A gameplan to stop gawking
July 8, 2016

To leave it behind has a finality to it that I don’t want to misrepresent. It is an ongoing work, NOT a one-and-done change that happens. And the reason I think is because it is so much more than a…Read More

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4 Realities of Lustful Looking
May 24, 2016

Lustful looking is so tacky, isn’t it? You know when you see guys oogling some woman or  guy up and down how repulsive it is. And most of us know the feeling of being that guy too. But beyond that,…Read More

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