Check-in or Checking-the-Box
February 1, 2018

A topic that comes up often in my office is that of check-ins. By this I mean the multitude of touch points men have with their wives. These include the daily ones, typified by coming and going to work, meetings,…Read More

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Tips on Reassurance
January 8, 2018

Providing reassurance to our wives is an important part of trust building after betrayal. For most wives, just hearing “I’m not acting out” is not reassuring at all. If you have a history of lies and cover-ups, then it may…Read More

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Measuring Progress
October 5, 2016

A common question I get from men in the recovery process is, “I’m not acting out, so how can I show my wife I’m making progress?”   To which I usually follow with a question, “How do you know when you’re…Read More

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4 Realities of Lustful Looking
May 24, 2016

Lustful looking is so tacky, isn’t it? You know when you see guys oogling some woman or  guy up and down how repulsive it is. And most of us know the feeling of being that guy too. But beyond that,…Read More

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Truly, truly I tell you
May 8, 2016

We all know telling the truth is a biblical imperative. Yet it seems like so many men struggling with sexual integrity issues have amnesia with respect to it. Telling a lie has become second nature to so many of us,…Read More

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Make Way for Radiance
January 11, 2016

Several months ago I was doing a visualization exercise with one of my groups when I had a vivid picture pop into my mind. It looked like this:    Along with the picture came a profound (to me) take on…Read More

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Recovery Roadtrip
November 7, 2015

If you have or had small kids and you took a road trip, you can probably hear those little voices in your head asking, “are we there yet? Are we there yet?” On the one hand so cute, on the…Read More

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Power of a Wife’s Words
October 5, 2015

Words cannot describe how sweet it is for a husband to hear his wife say he is being the leader, man, father and husband she has always wanted. It is something profound and beyond comprehension. I watched it happen this…Read More

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80/20 Rule
June 11, 2015

This is a repost of a previous entry I did on the Every Mans Battle blog. So true, and so applicable today. There are several consistent themes among men struggling with sexual integrity issues. One of those is the 80/20…Read More

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Press On
March 2, 2015

Had these thoughts lately? Is it worth it? Is she worth it? Can I actually do this? Will our relationship ever be good/happy/fulfilling again? Or perhaps even for the first time? Will she ever change? Would she be better off…Read More

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